“Tammy infuses hope and empowers women to take their next step.”

-SHELLY MARTINKUS

Guiding betrayed partners on how to heal after intimate betrayal, empowering them to know it’s never their fault, and helping them navigate one of the most painful experiences of their lives.

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Intimate betrayal is deeply personal and is something few people understand.

… leaving betrayed partners feeling misunderstood, hurting, and alone.

As a trauma-informed, licensed professional counselor — and someone who’s healed from the pain of betrayal — Tammy provides audiences with compassion, clinical expertise, and practical tools to move from devastation to healing and freedom.

Most Requested Topics

When betrayal shatters you, healing can feel impossible — but there is a path through. In this talk, Tammy guides betrayed partners through the four phases of healing, helping them make sense of what’s happening in the relationship and within themselves. Each phase brings clarity, validation, and guidance — showing her what to focus on (and what not to) so she can move forward to healing and wholeness.

The emotions that come with betrayal are intense, messy, and completely normal. In this talk, Tammy helps betrayed partners understand the vital roles of grief, sadness, and anger in healing, and why avoiding them can stall progress. She offers a safe, compassionate framework for acknowledging and moving through these powerful emotions.

Boundaries are essential for reestablishing emotional and relational safety after betrayal. In this talk, Tammy betrayed partners learn how to set boundaries with their partner by connecting with themselves, identifying what they need to feel safe, and putting that into words. Through this process they honor their needs, find their voice, and step into their strength.

Triggers are spotlights on areas that need healing. In this talk, Tammy explains what triggers really are — a neurological response to perceived threat, not a reflection of weakness or failure. She helps betrayed partners understand what’s happening in their bodies, calm their nervous systems, and find their footing again.

Healthy detachment is not about walking away, but it’s about creating safety for yourself in a relationship where your partner is not doing great work. By creating an emotional buffer, betrayed partners learn how to shift from getting their needs met by him, to meeting their own needs. This talk will show betrayed partners how to gain safety and move forward towards life and healing, whether their partner is doing the work or not.

Betrayal shatters your sense of self and it feels like you’ve lost parts of you. In this talk, Tammy helps you recognize that those parts aren’t dead, but you need to go back and find them. She shows you how to reconnect with yourself with gentleness and compassion so you can experience beauty, joy, and adventure again.

Other Popular Topics Include:

  • Understanding Betrayal Trauma and Its Emotional, Physical & Psychological Impact
  • Navigating Sexual Reintegration After Betrayal
  • Determining the Role of Forgiveness and Trust in Healing
  • The Importance of Fun and Play In Healing After Betrayal
  • Post-Traumatic Growth: Designing a Future That You Are Excited to Live

“Tammy captivates her audience with her clarity and confidence. In addition, she infuses hope and empowers women to take their next step.”

– Shelly Martinkus

Tammy’s Bio

Tammy Gustafson is a trauma-informed licensed professional counselor, coach, author, and speaker with over fifteen years of experience. She is passionate about helping women pick up the broken pieces of their hearts after intimate betrayal, find their strength, navigate the counterintuitive process of healing, and discover new ways to live with purpose, joy, and confidence.

Tammy holds a master’s degree in counseling. She is the host of the Betrayal Healing Conference and leads retreats for betrayed partners to Paris, France. She is a certified EMDR therapist and is the founder and CEO of Betrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling.

Tammy is the bestselling author of Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal, released in January 2026.

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What Others Are Saying . . .

“Tammy’s an inspirational and empowering speaker.”

  • “Tammy captivates her audience with her clarity and confidence. In addition, she infuses hope and empowers women to take their next step.”

    Shelly Martinkus
    Redemptive Living for Women

  • “Tammy is an inspirational and empowering speaker. She has a deep understanding of betrayal trauma and genuine caring for those who have been hurt.”

    Ruth Falk
    CEO of Beyond Sex Addiction

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Whether a conference, support group, or leadership retreat, Tammy’s message helps betrayed partners rebuild their lives.

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